​My clients often feel hopeless like you do. They love each other. They love the life they’ve built together. But their relationship feels so distant. They walk in feeling defeated, on edge, and emotionally exhausted. The arguing and silence rip away the positive affection they once had in their relationship.

 

Often, it doesn't matter what the "it" is, if you're like many of the couples I see, the process looks the same. Your arguments turn into a back-and-forth pattern of talking past each other.

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With each argument - verbal or silent - you begin questioning the certainty of the relationship. You don’t like the way the arguing and silence feel. You don’t like the way it causes you to feel about your partner. You don’t like the way it causes them to feel about you. You don’t like the way it causes you to feel about yourself, or the relationship.  

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The emotional distance gets in the way of friendship and intimacy. You don’t like the type of partners you've become but feel stuck figuring out how to be different. Your confidence in having a better relationship dwindles with every argument, misunderstanding, or memory of past hurts.

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It's not uncommon that from feeling emotionally distant, one partner seeks affection elsewhere. As a result, I also work with affair recovery. Before coming to see me, my clients wondered if recovering from an affair was possible. The hurt from the discovery was devastating. The loss of what they valued in the relationship along with the violation of trust colored the image of their partner. Their world no longer made sense. Their attempts to get past it were paralyzed by damaged trust, shame, and guilt. And they were certain there was no path to move forward.

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But like my clients, you deserve to be in a relationship that honors feelings, allows space for different points of view, an opportunity to get past the affair, and knows what to do to get through difficult moments. It’s possible to get better at turning conflict into intimate conversations.  

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Couples therapy guides you and your partner through the journey of recovery to a better self, and a healthier relationship. Your sessions will foster openness and transparency that rebuild trust, confidence, and emotional connection.